Last year it took The Diva and I about 45 minutes to an hour each way to work/the babysitter.  This year it takes about 12-15 minutes each day.  Of course this year, The Diva has sharpened her language skills and is EVEN more chatty.  And random.  And asking questions I don't know how to answer properly.
Today on the drive home The Diva asked me where Grandma D was.  Grandma D passed away last January.  The Diva had met her, talked to her on the phone, but I think her real knowledge of Grandma D is through pictures and us talking about her.  I was really close to my Gram, and now being back close to family, it is hard hitting knowing that she is no longer here with us.  So with Grandma D apparently on The Diva's mind our conversation went something like this:
The Diva: Where is Grandma D?
Me:  In heaven honey.
The Diva: Oh.  Rocky is in heaven too. (Our friend's dog who died this summer)
Me: Yes baby that's right.
The Diva: And Sue-Sue is in heaven too?  (Our friend's elderly dog who passed away last week)
Me: Yes baby, Sue-Sue is in heaven too.
The Diva: Is Sue-Sue still sick in heaven?
Me:  No, baby, Sue-Sue is all better in heaven, she is happy there.\
The Diva:  Is Grandma D happy?  Can I call her?
Me: (At this point I am trying not to cry) No baby, you can't call her.
The Diva: Can YOU call her?
Me: No baby I can't call her either.
The Diva: Are you sad Mommy?  Why are you sad?
Me:  I just miss Grandma D.
The Diva:  I love you Mommy.
I didn't know that I would be having these conversations with a two year old.  And it makes me realize all the hard talks and conversations to come.  That I will probably screw up.  That I don't think I will ever be ready for.  How do you truly give a two year old answers that make sense about stuff like this?  Anyone?  Anyone?
 
1 comment:
It sounds like you did a great job, spoke to her honestly and on her level. I'm so sorry about Grandma D. :(
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